While romantic relationships can be beautiful and enriching affairs, they can also be very vile, toxic, and bad for you. And that’s just part of the dangers of love and romance. Like is a truly beautiful experience that you can share with another person when it’s true and pure.
However, when love goes wrong, it can betray you. It can bring a lot of disappointment, devastation, sadness, and negative energy into your life. That’s why it’s always essential that you are always able to identify the kinds of love that are wrong for you so that you can stop yourself from becoming completely attached.
That’s where all the pain from a failed love comes from – attachment. And if you are able to identify a relationship that is wrong for you, then you would be able to protect yourself better.
There’s no point in you staying in a relationship that is only bound for failure. There’s no point in you waiting around for things to get better in your relationship even when the facts are staring at you right in the face.
When a relationship is toxic and wrong, then you need to be able to detach yourself from it entirely. And you need to distance yourself from that. Naturally, all relationships are always going to have their fair share of issues and problems. But the best couples are always going to be able to find a way to come to a resolution on these issues.
However, the toxic couples are only going to get crushed more and more underneath the pressure of all that negative energy that they generate in their relationship.
At the end of the day, you always want to be making sure that you are only exerting your time and energy in the relationships that actually bring value into your life.
And if you find that the relationship that you’re currently in just isn’t going to cut it for you, then you need to break it off. You need to walk away. It might not be easy but it’s definitely necessary for your overall long-term happiness.
But how do you know if it’s time for you to abandon a relationship and burn that bridge? Well, you just need to refer to the list of red flags below:
1. You don’t have a consistent communication habit going on.
It’s fairly evident that the relationship is broken when you don’t communicate with one another. A relationship without any proper communication habits will only end up in disaster and brokenness. It’s impossible for two people to stay on the same page when there is minimal communication.
2. You feel like the relationship is changing you into a worse human being.
You get the sense that somehow, you aren’t becoming a better person because of your relationship. In fact, you feel like your relationship is turning you into someone you don’t want to be; into a person you’re definitely not proud of being.
3. You are in the relationship out of convenience more than love.
You are just practically in the relationship because it’s the convenient and practical thing for you to do. You aren’t necessarily motivated by love or passion. You’re purely motivated by convenience and pragmatism. And that isn’t love at all.
4. There is more selfishness than selflessness in your relationship.
In any kind of relationship that is built on genuine love, there is more selflessness than there is selfishness. Like is never going to be selfish or self-serving.
5. You are forcing yourself to stay invested.
You feel like you are constantly having to convince yourself that your relationship is still worth fighting for. You are always trying to tell yourself that this relationship is still one that is actually still worth fighting for. But deep down inside, you know the that the opposite is true.
6. You are irritable and annoyed with one another.
Somehow, you always feel so annoyed and irritated in your relationship. You are constantly in a bad mood because of the fact that you’re together.
7. You don’t know much about one another in an intimate sense.
You don’t talk to one another and so you don’t know so much about your partner’s life. You know the basics. But when it comes to the deep and intimate stuff, your partner is practically a mystery to you.
8. You only ever have fun when you’re having sex.
One big indication that you’re not in love with one another is you only ever have fun when you’re having sex. This is blatant proof that your relationship is purely physical and emotions have very little to do with you being together in the first place.
9. You are daydreaming about being single or being with someone else.
You constantly find yourself daydreaming about being with someone else. You are so discontented with everything that is happening in your relationship that you are practically fantasizing about all other alternatives. You are desperate to explore other options that are available to you.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé