When you get into a relationship with someone, it’s likely that you would always want that relationship to last. You would always want to get into intimate relationships that are designed to last for the long-term. However, there is no escaping the fact that some people are just going to be looking for temporary flings and hookups. Unfortunately, there are going to be those of us who are also afraid of commitment; those who are also fearful of the idea of tying themselves down to someone for an extended period.
Of course, you might be with this man because you see some serious potential there. However, how sure are you that he is the same way? How sure are you that he’s someone who is actually looking to be in a long and committed relationship as well? Maybe you might think that things are getting real.
However, he might just be looking something casual and temporary with you. And that’s unfortunate because you’re only setting yourself up for disappointment. You are only setting yourself up for heartbreak by not having your expectations aligned.
If you notice that a lot of the things that are listed here actually apply to your relationship and the guy that you’re with, then it’s likely that he’s not looking for anything serious with you.
1. He doesn’t try to get in touch with you.
He doesn’t reach out to you. He doesn’t try to get in touch with you. He doesn’t seem interested to engage with you on an intimate level at all. You are the one who is always making an effort to have some lines of communication in the relationship. It’s as if you’re the only one who is invested in trying to make things work.
2. He only ever reaches out to you whenever he needs something.
And in the few times, he does try to reach out to you, it’s never because he just wants to be talking to you. It’s not that he’s just looking to have some kind of conversation with you to get to know you better. It’s all just because he wants something from you. It’s all because he just wants some kind of favor or gift from you. He’s just looking to get something out of you.
3. He goes MIA from time to time without a trace.
He is inconsistent with his presence in your life. There are times wherein he will just completely vanish. There are moments wherein he will just completely disappear from your life. He doesn’t give you the consistency that you need to be able to rely on him. You can’t bring yourself to depend on him to always be there for you because of how inconsistent he is.
4. He still goes on dates or flirts with other girls.
He doesn’t show you any sense of loyalty or commitment. He’s not making an effort to make you feel like you are the only woman in his life. He is still trying to keep his options open because he’s not sure about having a future with you. In fact, he might not be interested in anything long-term with you at all.
5. He doesn’t show you any sense of appreciation or gratitude.
He doesn’t make any effort to make you feel appreciated. He doesn’t try to validate your efforts in life. He doesn’t make it seem like he values your existence. He doesn’t give validation to the value that you bring into your relationship. He takes you for granted and he doesn’t give you any indications that see your worth in life.
6. There isn’t any sign of commitment in your relationship.
He doesn’t give you any signs that he’s willing to commit to you. He just shows you that he’s into it enough to keep you on the leash. But when it comes to establishing a relationship that is built for the future, he isn’t having any of it. He’s not a guy you can count on to give a hundred percent effort in the relationship.
7. He fails to make you feel like a priority in his life.
He doesn’t give you any indication that you are a priority in his life. In any kind of committed relationship, time is always going o be essential. But he just seems uninterested in giving you any of his time. He is always choosing to be with other people and to do other things than spend time with you.
8. Your instincts are telling you that things just aren’t right.
You always get the sense in your gut that things are just off. Your instincts are telling you that this relationship isn’t the real deal – and you should probably just move on to someone else.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé