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How to overcome shyness and be bold

If you have never suffered from shyness, you will not know how devitalizing it can be. Shyness can hold you back from achieving your goals in life because it makes you avoid public situations and speaking up when you need to do so. Shyness robs you of your peace of mind, makes you feel awkward when around people and hinders you from making new friends.

The causes of shyness differ in people hence vague but some possible causes include lack of experience in social interaction, bullying, and negative self-image.

Most people are shy once in a while, and there is nothing wrong with been shy from time to time. But when it becomes a problem and start robbing you of your peace of mind and hindering you from meeting people, then you have to fight and overcome it. There are ways you can overcome it and regain your confidence.

How to overcome it.

No matter how bad you look and feel, there is still something good about you. You have your strength. Whenever you are shy, forget about your weakness and dwell on your strength, after all, nobody has it all and no one is perfect. Remind yourself how amazing you are in the area of your strength.

Shy people tend to think that people are looking at them and judging them. The truth is those people are too busy thinking about themselves and how to solve their problems. So, whenever you are with people, don’t fall into that trap. Even if they look at you and judge you, remember what people think about you depends on their perspective, and they may be seeing you from the wrong “angle”.

If you notice that you are “killing” yourself about what a particular person might be thinking about you, try to shift your focus to other people you are more comfortable with. Engage them in discussion and ask them questions. When you do this, you are building your confidence.

Avoiding public places and social interactions because of shyness, pushes you deeper into the realm of shyness. Don’t avoid social situations even if it makes you uncomfortable and nervous because whatever did not kill you will always make you stronger. Each time you encounter social situations, you will become more equipped to face and deal with them in a more comfortable manner.

Overcoming shyness takes practice. The more you encounter social situations and practice social behavior, the easier they get and the more natural they feel.

Shy people tend to think that people are looking at them and judging them. The truth is that people are too busy thinking about themselves and how to solve their problems. So whenever you are with people, don’t fall into that trap. Even if they look at you and judge you, remember what people think about you depends on their perspective and they may be seeing you from the wrong “angle”.

If you notice that you “killing” yourself about what other people might be thinking about you, then shift your focus to other people you are more comfortable with. Engage them in discussion and ask them questions. When you do this, you are building your confidence.

Avoiding public places and social interactions because of shyness pushes you deeper into the realm of shyness. Don’t avoid social situations even if it makes you uncomfortable and nervous because what ever did not kill you will always make you stronger. Each time you encounter social situations, you will become more fit to face and deal with them in a more comfortable manner.

Overcoming shyness takes practice. The more you encounter social situations and practice social behaviors, the easier they get and the more natural they feel.

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